Dinner and a Movie

First off.. quick announcement. I added music to the blog here.. its set to play once only and I will change the song as I feel like it. If the music bugs you, feel free to just hit stop on the little player on the right and you don't have to listen.

There used to be a regular Friday night feature on either TBS or USA called Dinner and a Movie. Some obnoxious hosts would make dinner while they played some edited for TV movie. The typical dinner/movie date is pretty cliche I know, but when you are 2000 miles apart from your girlfriend, you find yourself wishing you could do those kinds of things.

Lisa and I realized we both had a copy of 10,000 BC that we hadn't watched yet and so we decided to do dinner and a movie .. long distance. She wanted chinese food and since she was talking about it, I decided to go get some myself. The good chinese place in town doesn't deliver so I went to go get mine while she ordered her food. Come to find out the chinese food place she wanted to order from isn't open on weekends... yeah.. a food place not open on weekends? WTF. Anyway, she changed her location and got some pizza ordered and I arrived home with my chinese.. general Tso's chicken. I am not sure if they let the general know I was taking his chicken, but it was tasty so he can get bent.

We got all settled with our food, got the movie queued up and I called her on the phone. Thank god I have charter cable telephone and unlimited long distance. I have certainly gotten good use out of that! It took us about 4 tries to get the movie synced up, but we did. So we spent an evening with some good food and enjoyed a movie together. Talking, laughing, joking around and having a great time together. We didn't like the way the movie ended. Lisa being very upset that a certain person was not as dead as she was hoping (don't want to spoil the ending) .. but overall it was an entertaining film.. which is all I really expect out of a movie. A couple hours of entertainment. This one made better by the fact that I got to share the time with Lisa. <3

I know you may be thinking the whole thing is kinda cheesy, and maybe it is a bit, but unless you have tried to maintain a long distance relationship for any length of time, you wouldn't understand. We do what we can to spend time together and enjoy each others company between trips. Luckily its not too much longer til she comes to visit again. This time we are taking a trip up to Canada for a few days while she is here for our 1st annual Cessation guild meet. Cess is the online gaming guild I started with my friend Brian almost 10 years ago now.. and we are meeting a bunch of the people we have played with off and on over the years.

If you are thinking about starting a long distance relationship, might I reccomend something closer to home? :P I'm not saying it can't be done.. we are doing it and doing well, but its not easy by any stretch of the imagination. When one of us isn't feeling well or having a bad day.. you want to be there to hold them and take care of them. When things are great and they had something to celebrate, you want to be there to enjoy that time with them. And then there is all the other times.. when you just think how much nicer it would be to have that special someone right there with you .. to do all the stupid little things you have to do in your day to day life.

In the end though.. you can't control who you fall for. If the relationship feels good, feels right .. is loving and strong .. you can deal with what you need to make it all work out. The song playing on the blog today puts it pretty well:

It's not what you got.. it's what you give.
It aint the life you choose, it's the life you live.

Things don't always work out the way we think they will. Is your life exactly how you pictued it 5 years ago? 10? The way I look at it, we can either be depressed that our life didn't follow that perfect plan we had all layed out, or we can look around and see all the amazing things we do have in our life, treasure those things and live our lives happy. We don't always get to choose how things play out, but we always get to choose how we react to things and how we let those events affect us.

If you stumble across someone in this great big world that makes you happy and loves you like you love them ... for who you are, then do everything you can to hold on to them. It's a rare thing to connect with someone on that level in this day and age.